Daughters of the African Diaspora

“Don’t worry Anny, when you have your babies, I will come where you are and show you everything you need to know…”
Within a year of my mother saying those words to me, she had become an ancestor. That is one of the few statements that I can still hear in her actual voice, and I have spent the past 25 years, through births of my own and many others, chasing her words and trying to figure out what she would have shown me.
Initially, my questions lead me to elders in my life. But then I visited Africa for the first time and recognized similarities between how they do some things and what we did during the many summers I spent at my grandparents’ farm in rural Alabama. I clearly saw our connection as people of African descent. I saw traditions that affirmed our “Africanness” and practices that until about 50 years ago had been passed down from generation to generation to ensure our survival.
Until a half century ago, when the U.S. granted people of African descent citizenship, Black women practiced the same birthing skills that had been practiced for centuries prior, brought to this country by African women. Some fifty years later, in a time when maternity care is assumed to be the most advanced, Black mothers and babies are dying at increasingly alarming rates higher than the general population of women.
How can this be happening in the world’s most industrialized, western societies?
It is clear that something is wrong… I would go even further to say, “Something is missing…” or better yet… “someONE is missing…” And I will walk all the way out on the tip of the ledge and say that the SOMEONE missing in OUR story is THE BLACK WOMAN. I believe that in recent decades, we have been missing in our own story. And I believe that WE are and have always been the secret ingredient that allowed us to sustain ourselves during childbirth and beyond.
While more and more attention is being drawn to the ways modern medical systems have failed Black women from the beginning, there is also room to point out our need to “RECLAIM OUR BIRTH RITES” and practices.
What did our grandmothers and great grandmothers know that allowed them to support themselves and others during childbirth that we no longer know?
What knowledge and skills about childbirth did families use when they were not allowed into modern health facilities?
What resourcefulness have we abandoned as “the old way” that was actually keeping Black women and children safe in the face of so much systematic oppression and adversity?
Have times changed as much as we think they have? Or is it just time for us to SANKOFA… to go back and get all that has been lost, stolen, abandoned, forgotten and surrendered.
Daughters of the African Diaspora Alliance (D.O.A.D. Alliance) was established to assist us in our journey to RECLAIM what is ours, so that we are once again the first resource and the first line of defense for our women and children.
It is my prayer that we as Black women who are mothers, grandmothers, aunts, daughters, sisters, cousins and friends will CATCH THE MANTLE OF CARE AND NURTURE FOR BIRTHING WOMEN that has been left behind by OUR MOTHERS WHO ARE NOW IN THE HEAVENLY REALM; and intensify our efforts to learn and RE-MEMBER WHO WE ARE so we can “HELP ourselves to HEAL ourselves, and SAVE OURSELVES!”
P.S. Daughters of the African Diaspora Alliance was launched on February 5, 2019, 25 years after my mother Johnnie Mae Gray Little became an ancestor. I recognize this day as her Legacy Day and a time to celebrate her legacy and how it has influenced and been manifested throughout my life. May she be pleased with the work I am striving to do.

For Daughters of the African Diaspora

🤷🏾‍♀️How Do I Start Celebrating Kwanzaa???

Our family only incorporated Kwanzaa into our winter holiday celebrations several years ago, but I still recall how intimidating it seemed not knowing where to begin. I often have people who ask me about how to get started celebrating Kwanzaa. Sometimes we have been fortunate to live close enough to invite them over to celebrate one of the days with us. Other times, I just offer ideas that worked for us. I answered one of those inquiries via email yesterday and thought it would be helpful to share my response with others who may find Kwanzaa celebrations to be foreign territory to them. I am sharing a portion of the email below and my response:
Greetings Dr. Doula,
My family and I are looking to purchase decorations for Kwanzaa and overall things to have and what to teach our children about. No one here in [my area] has been of much help and I was wondering if you could assist me or point me in the right direction. (:

I hope you are already enjoying your holiday season. It’s so exciting to hear that you are celebrating Kwanzaa with your family this year. What we did when we first started was use Google and youtube to learn about the basics and what’s used and to find out about events in our area, but here are some other more specific suggestions to help you get started:
  • A1F6928E-B166-4B01-88D6-9D3B2C562E5EHere is a link with some basic details (cheat sheet) that you can follow while still being creative with how you choose to celebrate:   https://www.google.com/amp/s/m.wikihow.com/Celebrate-Kwanzaa%3famp=1 
  • Also, here is the official site by the founder, Dr. Maulana Karenga:   http://www.officialkwanzaawebsite.org/index.shtml. There is a lot of info there and he offers a Kwanzaa Greeting message each year.
  • Google “kwanzaa + your city (or the closest major city) + 2018″ to see what community Kwanzaa events may be happening near you this year. We have spent a lot of time with people in the community at events like these and it really helped us to learn, meet other like-minded people, and understand the importance of umoja (unity) in the celebration and the spirit of the festivities and the days. It’s a great time to support Black businesses in the spirit of ujamaa (cooperative economics). If there are African stores in your area, they may sell some items and decorations that will be useful. Some people make their own ornaments/crafts for the table.
  • During our time of reflection on each daily principle, we have always made time for each person, even our little ones, to have time to talk about each principle. It has helped us to bond even closer as a family as we consider how our lives serve nia (purpose) and actively practice kujichagulia (self-determination) to build imani (faith) in the Creator for our futures. Every year our celebration evolves and changes to fit our family and we continue to determine for ourselves who we will become and how we will impact the world.
  • If you have little ones, think of creative ways for them to participate. Incorporate activities that you know they will enjoy doing… unleash kuumba (creativity) and don’t be afraid to BE CREATIVE with your celebration.
  • Regarding the zawadi (gifts), people think about this in different ways. They are generally intended to be educational or handcrafted items, not consumeristic like what is often expected at Christmas, although some do combine the gift giving with Christmas. With my sons, we always aimed at giving them meaningful gifts, things that we knew they would appreciate and be able to learn from/through/with.
  • Also, we take our sons out to African stores and restaurants and ask the owners about their countries of origins, why they wanted to come to the U.S., and what they think about African Americans and who we are to them. Needless to say, we have had some very interesting conversations that helped our sons see our connection to the continent more clearly and the need for ujima (collective work and responsibility) with people of African descent around the world – on the continent and throughout the diaspora – as the descendants of Africa continue to rise.
  • ALSO, PURCHASE A DOWNLOAD THIS CD RIGHT AWAY: “SEVEN PRINCIPLES” by Chavunduka and Steve CobbThe music is amazing. I have had the privilege of watching this awesome couple perform this music live before a couple of times and it was WONDERFUL! They have songs about each principle for each day and what it represents, and have been helping people of African descent build a legacy through these songs for more than 20 years. Here is portion of one of my favorites (the theme song) from when I attended a live event a few years ago:

We do certain unique things based on certain family preferences. For example, we light our candles in reverse. We have an “Imani” in our home and as he was getting older and taller (before he reached 6’5″) he identified with the black candle in the middle. Our children felt that our Imani represented the black candle and they didn’t want to see it be the shortest by the end of the week when to them it symbolized the strength of Black people amidst the struggle. So my husband and I let them decide how we would light the candles in our home, even though they understand that when we go out into the community that everyone else will do it a different way. It works well for our family. 😊

If you remember nothing else, remember that you and your family make Kwanzaa special and not the other way around. Allow it to be meaningful to your family and don’t focus too much on perfecting actions as if they are strict rituals. The African continent is the home to hundreds of different people groups with diverse cultures, languages and traditions. Don’t be afraid to let your family’s uniqueness shine through in your celebration. Allow it to nurture your family and ground you all for the new year.

I hope the information in this email will be helpful for you. I would love to know how everything works out for your family this year. 


Day 4… It’s My Turn…

My plan was to stay up until 8am GMT +4 (12 midnight my time) when I knew the  Day 4 presentations of the Sacred Postpartum Summit would be posted… My plan was to be the first person to view MY PRESENTATION… Why? Because I have this tendency to read or look at presentations that I give and not remember saying half of the things that come out of my mouth. I wanted to watch it while our side of the world was still asleep.


When I saw my face on the page, I got excited and a little nervous. There have been an amazing array of birth workers from around the globe on Days 1-3. I have enjoyed gleaning from these knowledgeable, capable women.

I clicked on the video  and watched it. Sure enough, there were some statements that I made that may land on different ears in different ways. Anytime a person talks about the appropriation of Black culture and postpartum birth practices in the same presentation, there are bound to be diverse opinions about it… but I stand by every word I spoke.

You can still register for the Sacred Postpartum Summit to enjoy the last three days. And if you are a postpartum birth worker, you will learn so much that can enhance your postpartum knowledge and… It is FREE! Take some time to watch my presentation (along with the others) and let me know what you think in the comments below.