Home Alone…


“I am gonna miss you so much,” he says.
“What am I gonna do while you’re gone?” he says.
“Oh, I am going to miss you SO MUCH MORE, Babe…” I said.
“What will you do in this house all by yourself?” I said. “You don’t even have the boys here…”

You get FOUR GUESSES as to what Coach Gene has planned while I am away helping Dominican and Haitian women BIRTH BABIES in the Dominican Republic… While I am resting up from WORKING HARD on the night shift every night from 11pm -7am, his daylight hours WILL BE FULL!

I swear, he was acting SO PITIFUL and I was feeling SO BAD for him.

I was all like, “Babe… you gotta ENJOY this time! What would you do if you were a CELIBATE, single man with no kids?” I should have known he was up to something when over the next few days he got a twinkle in his eye and a pep in his step.

YOU GUESS what he has planned:
A. Going on several golfing trips
B. Taking a motorcycle refresher course
C. Taking a Conceal Carry Course and Gun Training
D. Going horseback riding at a local ranch

Go ahead… guess… you won’t get it wrong.

This joker… And here I was thinking that he needed his friends to set up play dates or something. He has plans and will be living LA VIDA LOCA! I was even trying to fuss about him spending money… Nope! He was like, “It was only $20…”

But seriously, I am happy for him! He has worked SO HARD for his family over the past 23 years of our marriage. He is such a WONDERFUL HUSBAND AND FATHER… I am so grateful he will have this time alone… where he only has to be responsible to and for himself.

I know every time he leaves me somewhere by myself I LOVE IT!!!! As a home school mom for 13 years and being consumed with the needs of my family 24/7 most of our marriage, I have come to recognize that self-care is a most valuable commodity.

SO ENJOY YOURSELF, BABE!!! DO IT! DO IT! DO IT! ♥

Oh! Just remember… DO NOT BUY a horse… a motorcycle… or any of the other stuff… JUST ENJOY!

 

Dr. Doula

TWO MORE SLEEPS!


When my guys were little, they did not understand the concept of measuring days before something would happen. They wanted to know, “How many more SLEEPS, Mommy?” They usually asked as I was tucking them in at night. “Is this the last sleep, Mommy?” It made so much sense to them.

I had not thought about that much until this morning.

SERIOUSLY… I woke up and saw Gene getting ready for work and the first words out of my mouth were, “Oh no… I only have ONE MORE SLEEP!” It turns out, I was wrong… I quickly realized that I have TWO MORE DAYS… I mean TWO MORE SLEEPS!

I am SOOOO EXCITED about this opportunity to serve the women of Hispaniola, but I am also making the most of these last couple of days I have with ♥ my husband ♥ … I am REALLY enjoying my time with him while my sons are with their Summer Mommas (my older and younger sisters) in Alabama. I am also enjoying the time to myself… This time is GOLDEN.

I do not know really know what to expect when I travel to the Dominican Republic on Thursday, but I know I will have a life altering experience…
I know I will have an opportunity to assist Dominican and Haitian moms in labor…
I know I will need to employ some of my high school Spanish to navigate my environment…
I also know I will learn some things about myself and others I don’t anticipate learning…
I am confident I will expand as a human being…
And I have a surety that I will return different than the way I have left…

So TWO MORE SLEEPS

If you have been meaning to make a financial donation to the birth work I will be doing in the Dominican Republic and haven’t gotten a chance, you can still donate so here –> http://www.drdoula.com/dr2017-donation1.html

 

Dr. Doula

What a Difference a Boat Ride Makes


6With SIX DAYS left before I leave, I have been thinking about the Dominican and Haitian women I will be serving. I am thinking about our similarities more than our differences… not just as women, but as women of African descent.

I know all do not acknowledge African heritage across the island, none the less, there are those who do. And I also acknowledge that there is no difference between those Africans that were sent to Hispaniola and those sent to mainland North America.

In an effort to break their wills and ensure dependency of the enslaved on their oppressors, it is well known that one of the techniques used to weaken familial bonds and resistance from enslaved Africans was to split up families and sell them in different places. That means that the greatest difference between myself and the women I will be serving is where our ancestors were disembarkedwhere they got off the boat.

Across the island, there are areas where, similar to the U.S. mainland, there is a variation of shades of complexions. In the case of Hispaniola, the delineations in hues and shades can be seen in the stark contrast between the people of the Dominican Republic and Haiti. Regardless of how these separations are made in different countries based on historical political context, culture, language, etc., I still see the commonalities. And for those who are experiencing poverty and economic depravity… I am reminded that we are (literally) the same people even in our diversity.

For me, this why your financial support is so meaningful and important. You are helping me reach out to support family during “the most powerful and most vulnerable” time in these women’s lives – CHILDBIRTH.

You can contribute to this work here –> http://www.drdoula.com/dr2017-donation1.html

Here is some additional information about the work I will be doing while in the Dominican Republic. 

I will be a part of a team of nine birth professionals volunteering at Hospital Presidente Estrella Ureña in Santiago de los Caballeros, Dominican Republic. I and three other women will be working the night shift from 11pm – 7am shift each day.

The conditions and the treatment the women receive at the hospital is below what most would consider unacceptable. The moms and newborns have only what they walk in with unless their families provide for them. We will seek to offer material comforts through the provision of sheets for the beds, water, and some ‘luxury’ items as gifts for mom and baby. These luxury items will include a small bar of soap, underwear, sanitary pads, and a toothbrush for the mothers; and a onesie, socks, a receiving blanket and a few diapers for the newborns.

Both the mothers and their newborns are often treated in ways that many would consider inhumane. The women deliver in a room with 10 other beds, sometimes two women to a cot. They birth in their street clothes, on a plastic bed, without food or water, and with no loved ones or support at their side; and they may be separated from their babies for up to 24 hours. We will be working around the clock shifts to bring comfort, support, and love to these women and babies.

Continued blessings, love, peace and light for your path.

Dr.Doula